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Tips For Single Christians Dating

Tips for SinglesSingle Christians dating need to learn how to pick people with godly character traits…as well as be a person of godly character!

Being a Christian and member of a church does not inoculate you from being drawn into an unhealthy relationship. In this article on Christian dating tips you will find…

  • What character traits to look for in a potential date.
  • How to recognize the signs of a healthy relationship.
  • One question single Christians dating can ask themselves that will powerfully guide them in making the right dating decisions.

As always we look to the scriptures for our help. In the book of Ruth we find the story of Ruth and Boaz…two Christian singles.

The story opens onto a scene where Naomi (Ruth’s mother-in-law) is at a crossroads in her life. Her husband has died. Both of her sons (one of whom was Ruth’s husband) have also died. Naomi is in despair and decides to go back home to Bethlehem in Judah.

In her despair, Naomi tries to push Ruth and Orpah, her daughters-in-law away. She entreats them to stay in Moab. But despite Naomi’s weeping and wailing, Ruth insists on remaining with Naomi. Orpah, however, retreats and turns back.

Ruth demonstrates responsibility, courage, maturity and loyalty in her determination to remain with Naomi. After all, Bethlehem was not her home town, the Jews were not her people…

When they arrive in Bethlehem, Ruth, consistent with her vow to Naomi in chapter 1, goes and finds a job gleaning in a barley field. Gleaning was picking up whatever grain was left behind by the harvesters. Gleaning was the work of very poor people.

In the field Ruth “just happens” to meet Boaz. He is a wealthy relative of Naomi’s dead husband. Listen to what Boaz’s foreman had to say about Ruth’s character: “She said, Please let me glean and gather among the sheaves behind the harvesters. She went into the field and has worked steadily from morning till now, except for a short rest in the shelter.”

Boaz discovers that Ruth is a hard worker, who takes seriously her vow to care for her mother-in-law. Ruth did not come expecting a handout. She came with a willing heart to work.

Now let’s take a look at the character traits of Boaz…verses 8-12 in chapter 2 speak volumes about Boaz. Listen to what Boaz says to Ruth: My daughter, listen to me. Don’t go and glean in another field and don’t go away from here. Stay here with my servant girls. Watch the field where the men are harvesting, and follow along after the girls. I have told the men not to touch you. And whenever you are thirsty, go and get a drink from the water jars the men have filled.

Boaz is the prototype of true masculinity. While Ruth is working in his fields he protects her. He provides for her. He treats her with the utmost respect. Later on Boaz compliments Ruth’s willingness to provide for Naomi and blesses her in the name of the Lord. It’s likely for Ruth that this feels like the beginning of a safe relationship. Single Christians need good information on how to build healthy relationships.

It’s interesting to note that Boaz builds Ruth up. He does not offer empty platitudes or flirtatious remarks that make her feel compromised or uncomfortable. His remarks communicate his respect for Ruth and her priorities.

How does Ruth respond to Boaz’s graciousness…

Ruth responds with humility and thankfulness. Ruth is not too proud to except Boaz’s provision for her and Naomi. Neither is she embarrassed by her needy situation. She is willing to do what it takes and receives Boaz’s kindness as the blessing that it is from the Lord.

Most importantly, this appears to be the beginning of a relationship which will draw her closer to God and affirm her beliefs and her values. Single Christians dating need to avoid relationships that compromise their Christian values.

Throughout the book of Ruth, Boaz continues to express great integrity. Ruth is the new girl on the block. She is not familiar with the customs of the Jews and Boaz is sensitive to her emotional vulnerability. He tells his men be gentle with her. He offers her grace when she makes mistakes. In healthy relationships people feel safe to be themselves. They feel safe enough to make mistakes, because the expectation is not perfection.

Selecting the right mate is a decision that will affect the quality of the rest of your life. For more christian dating advice from the book of Ruth click here.



Intensive Marriage Workshop

Make Your Marriage Work God’s Way is an intensive Christ centered marriage workshop. One of the best investments you can make in yourself, your family and God’s Kingdom is in your marriage.

This marriage workshop is for you if …

  • You want to strengthen your relationship
  • You are stuck in unresolved conflict
  • You are considering marriage
  • You are open to change
  • You desire more intimacy
  • You want a truly Christ centered marriage

The goals of the Make Your Marriage Work God’s Way intensive marriage workshop include helping couples to develop skills to…

  • Improve daily communication
  • Create a safe environment to foster intimacy
  • Navigate conflict successfully
  • Respect, enjoy and appreciate their differences
  • Experience and appropriate God’s love and grace
  • Restore agape love and passion
  • Live out the gospel of God’s grace in marriage

Workshop format…

In this workshop couples will have the opportunity to strengthen, enrich and rejuvenate their relationships through listening to brief teachings, viewing demonstrations, practicing skills and learning from others.

This workshop can be considered the equivalent of 3-6 months of consistent couples counseling. A $1000 – $1500.00 value.

The 15 hour intensive workshop covers…

  • Laying the Foundation – Creating a Marriage Vision
  • Understanding God’s Design – Creating Safety
  • Communication – Unlocking the Key to Intimacy
  • Resolving Conflict – Opportunities for Intimacy
  • Identifying Your Emotional Needs – Creating a Happy Marriage

Would you like to host a workshop at your church?

The Benefits of hosting a Marriage Workshop at your church…

  • Support your couples and families by offering skill based training
  • Build up the body of Christ and strengthen the local church
  • Healthy couples are better equipped to serve and mentor others
  • Help couples to learn practical ways to live a Christ centered life

Workshop cost and participation Guidelines...

  • Work shop is on a donation basis per couple
  • Materials are $10.00 per couple
  • Participants must be available to participate in the entire workshop.

If you are interested in hosting a Marriage Workshop intensive at your church in Brevard County area please contact me through the comment form below.


Godly Behavior Management Plan

A Godly Behavior Management Plan – Behavior Modification Plan

Whether it be a plan for parenting or for working with children in a therapeutic setting, a godly behavior plan begins with understanding training and discipline from God’s perspective…

Godly discipline flows out of Fatherly love

God disciplines us for our good, that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it. Therefore, strengthen your feeble arms and weak knees. “Make level paths for your feet,” so that the lame may not be disabled, but rather healed. (Hebrews 12:10-12)

If you are not disciplined (and everyone undergoes discipline), then you are illegitimate children and not true sons. (Hebrews 12:8)

Behavior Modification or Godly Discipline

Of course God’s plan is a parenting plan, not a behavior management plan, there is a vast difference. Behavior management is a clinical term used to describe therapeutic behavior modification techniques for shaping behavior. Behaviorism by itself does not concern itself with the heart and mind of the individual. Because many behavior management techniques can be very effective, this special report includes many standard techniques. However the counselor or parent should keep in mind the goal is to lead the child to a closer relationship with Christ not just to modify outward behavior.

Christian parenting however is radically different as it encompasses the concepts of Fatherly love, training in godliness, the image of God in each child, the need to shape the heart/mind from which righteous behavior flow, and most importantly the gospel of Jesus Christ set into motion.

Behavoral Reformation Begins with Heart Transformation

As followers of Christ we are to intentionally align our purpose with God’s, conform our hearts with the word, and be empowered by the Holy Spirit. Whether you are a Christian clinician or a parent who wants to help your child – God’s desire for your children is to make them more like Christ. Therefore the starting point to help your child change is submitting your own self to God and diligently seeking Him with your whole heart, soul, mind and strength. He will lead and guide you by His Holy Spirit to discipline and train your children in the way they should go.

The word is full of instruction on parenting…afterall, God’s main objective is to create a family. He conforms us and sanctifies us by His loving discipline and we, whether counselors, behavior programmers or parents, are to model our heavenly Father to the children we work with.

Comprehensive Behavioral Training Plan for Immediate Download

This Special training Report will be found useful by therapists and parents alike.

This training material was originally written for training parents and staff in a residential setting who were working with many behavior disordered children. This training outline does include many standard behavior modification techniques that are typically used in behavioral treatment settings. I welcome therapists to use this material in their own practices to use in group or individual training. A great way to expand your clinical territory and influence is to hold workshops.

This Download includes:

  • Training outline plus notes
  • Training outline without notes to be used as a handout
  • Outline includes names of recommended book resources

This 16 page comprehensive training report for dealing with difficult children:

  • Is well organized
  • Has scriptural support and principals for each section
  • Is easy to follow and digest
  • Offers practical solutions and examples in the notes

The sixteen (16) sections of this report covers

  • Biblical definition of and explanation of discipline
  • Criteria for identifying problem behavior
  • Possible causes of behavior problems
  • Identifying the target behaviors
  • The importance of creating relational safety for your child
  • Identifying positive and negative consequences
  • Explanation of behavior management techniques
  • Potential sources of frustration and stress in children
  • Signs of increased frustration
  • Crisis prevention tips
  • Caregiver soul care tips
  • And more

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Bonus Tool #3

  • Child Progress Note useful to help teach your young clients to journal, remember and internalize important principles from your sessions together.

Bonus Tool #4

  • Bible Study on Understand Forgiveness useful for leading children to an understanding of Christ’s work on the cross. Comes in 2 documents: 1) A bible study worksheet for the child. 2.) A bible study worksheet with notes for the counselor or caregiver.

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Christian Family Book Store

The Name of the LORD is a Strong Tower

The Name of the LORD is a Strong Tower

The Christian Family Book Store is your place for finding excellent Christian resources. The Christian Family Book Store has resources that will help you find hope and encouragement and move you and your family closer to your personal goals for godly living.

The Christian Family Book Store is organized by topic below. Simply Click on the following topical links in the Christian Family Book Store to see the selections offered:

To find a specific title or topic, use our convenient search tool…

One of the three keys to change is knowledge. Acquiring knowledge through reading can help you overcome the issues you struggle with. Reading however is not a substitute for professional counseling…if you are in need of counseling click here.

Progress Note

Writing a client progress note is one of the tools good counselor’s use to help them, help their clients. As a counselor, you know the value of processing your thoughts about client sessions through writing your clinical notes. Whether you use SOAP notes, DAP or some other format writing a good clinical note begins with a great form…

The Progress Note Tool Kit contains …

  • Templates suitable for use with adults or children
  • Conventional templates for handwriting notes
  • Automated templates for typing notes
  • 3 bonus templates
  • Templates in both PDF and Microsoft Word
  • A total of 11 17 templates for $19.97

Professional Progress Notes Tool Kit Available Immediately

All the forms in the Tool Kit are created in Microsoft Word and are Windows and Macintosh compatible. And, you can easily personalize them. Just double click on the header to add your own name, credentials, address, and contact information.

These template forms will help you collect subjective and objective data, assess your client’s progress, write a plan of action and more.

Don’t have Microsoft Word – Not technically Savvy?

No problem, if you simply need basic forms without your letterhead or can use your personal STAMP to add your name and credentials then this kit will also work perfectly for you. Just print the forms and use.

These 11 17 forms can be down loaded immediately for $19.97

Progress Note – This is the original template I developed for myself, after years of modifying clinical note forms. The original form includes check boxes and spaces for documenting…

  • Mental health status
  • Tracking progress
  • Standard CPT billing codes for services rendered
  • Appointment time
  • Payments or insurance billing

Additionally, there are spaces and prompts for recording….

  • Risk assessment
  • Therapeutic interventions
  • Client response
  • Homework
  • And more

When you have your own templates, you never have to worry about running out of forms, or having to make copies of copies – you know what those look like- unprofessional.

Progress Note A – An automated version of the original note above which allows you to type your clinical notes on your computer and print out. Each note will look professional and be easy to read. If you’re like me, this means you never have to worry about trying to decipher your own handwriting again!

Progress Note Conjoint – This template includes all the information on the original note above, but it supplies 2 columns of check boxes to document the mental health status of both clients you are working with.

Progress Note Conjoint A – this is the automated version of the Conjoint template form allowing you to create notes on your computer.

SOAP Notes – This SOAP note is specifically designed using SOAP format. This note includes all the same check boxes for CPT codes, assessing progress, mental health status, etc. as the original Note, but with specific reminders to write in your Subjective data, Objective data, Assessment and Plan.

SOAP Notes A – This is the automated version of the SOAP style form described above.

Conjoint SOAP Notes – Templates for both the automated and conventional SOAP notes are provided in conjoint format as described above.

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Click to view an sample of the Progress Note

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Bonus Tools
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BONUS #1 – Client Progress Note – This form is for your client. You know how valuable it is to take time to process each session in writing. Now there is a form to help your client assess their own emotional, cognitive and behavioral status after each session. This can be used as a helpful journaling tool as well.

The value of this bonus form alone is worth the cost of the entire Tool Kit.

I’ll never forget the day I introduced this tool to one client imparticular. I could see the impact it was making on her immediately. (By the way, I keep those forms on a clip board in my office. Once my clients get use to using them, they will remind me when I run out. That’s a good sign that they are adding value!) This form helps clients to take personal responsibility for their progress. And isn’t that what you want for your clients?

Help Clients Develop Critical Thinking Skills

Getting back to the story… as we began to work through each heading on the client note, her eyes brightened. When she began filling in the blanks, she obviously began to grasp what the counseling process was all about. She also began to grasp what was expected from her. I could see the wheels begin to turn: a smile came over her face as she said, “Now I get it.”

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Buy Now BlueOh, I almost forgot, I also included a 2nd BONUS – a Child’s Progress Note form with the bonus tools. This form is very similar to the note for client’s described above, but in a child friendly font and format.

Oh, and one last thing, did I mention that I am including a 3rd BONUS – an automated version of the Client Progress note (that makes 11 17 forms for $19.97) in case your clients prefer to process their session using a keyboard instead of pen and paper. Just email them the form in an attachment. That way they can easily email you the form or print out a copy of their own note for you as well. How easy is that!

This client form has many helpful features to add value to your work with clients…

  • Questions to help clients develop critical thinking skills
  • The format helps you to apply positive structure to your sessions
  • Helps clients get the most out of their therapy with you
  • Prompts for your client to write important information discussed in session
  • Including specific insights and applications

But that’s not all….

You know how important it is for clients to get in touch with their feelings. This tool has a section that will help your client assess their own emotional and cognitive state during the session.

Finally, and maybe most importantly, using this tool will help your clients to be more accountable. This form supplies a place to record…

  • Homework assignments
  • Insights gained from homework assignments
  • Even a prompt to contemplate reasons for not doing assignments

You know personal accountability is key to achieving goals!

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