What can you expect from Marriage Counseling?
First of all, you can expect that your counselor has a method or approach for helping couples to positively resolve their marriage issues.
In fact, you should ask what the counselor's approach is so you can be confident that there is an approach. What you don't need is mediation every week while you and your spouse duke it out (so to speak) in your counselor's office!
I have talked to many people who report that their counselor just let them talk (or argue) for an hour, while they nod their head, reflect what was said and reschedule!
If you are having marriage difficulties you need a counselor who is proactive. You need one who can give you practical tools. One who can lead you to insight and understanding about the nature of your struggles. One who can create an atmosphere which will optimize your chances of improving and saving your marriage.
Generally speaking, marriage problems are equally balanced between husband and wife, even though one spouse tends to feel it is more their spouse's fault than theirs.
This is normal and has to do with our general lack of objectivity...
